I wish you knew how much you changed me. I wonder if I changed you, if your life
is different because of me. Because mine's different. My God, you taught me so
much, and now we don't even talk to each other. I guess that's what happens.”-?
I don't know who the hell said the quote and frankly I don't care but damn how I think that almost every day of my miserable(being dramatic) life.
Every time I think of someone from the past, shit who is still in my life NOW I wonder do we really realize how much every person's influence has on each other?
I couldn't even begin to tell you...well I could but it would make for a verrrryyyy long entry.
But back to it, I couldn't even begin to tell you how much I've changed over the years and I know exactly why I am the way I am to this day.
Whether it was an event or a person in my life I am human and I finally get that. Being human makes me impressionable, and everything I've ever surrounded myself with has influenced me. Though I'm not perfect and not completely proud of who I am at least I can say I am proud.
I'm happy with my mistakes.
I'm happy with my ruined friendships and relationships.
I'm glad I've had these experiences because its taught me so much.
Most people would say "I'll hope through my experience I can lead my children through a good life." but the truth is...I know I won't be able to do that. I may tell them one day of the lessons I've learned but what I know is that you can not tell a child how to deal with a situation. They have to learn it on their own. My mother told me soooo many things, things if I had listen I would have never made those mistakes. But I'm glad I didn't listen, because now I know. I'm glad for the experience. Because if I didn't figure it out for myself then I wouldn't know what I know now...and honestly...I'd be so afraid. Cause I'd be clueless. Though I wouldn't know it(No pun intended...) I'd be lost. I can't imagine what I'd be like. would I be different? Of course. Would things be better? Possibly. But they could also be worse.
I honestly have thought, "What if..."? But honestly when it comes down to it I wouldn't change a damn thing. I believe its true what they say, every event, ever person, they have a place in our lives and if we had never met that person or that event good or bad whatever the case never happened our lives would be VERY different. And honestly as I've said and I'll say many times again my life is far from perfect but I wouldn't have it any other way.
I'd rather make mistakes, and though they suck at the time at least in the long run I'm learning something and I'm not walking through my life on egg shells afraid of every turn. Fuck the sidewalk, I want to walk in the middle of the road. The normal way home? I'll take the dark alley shortcut. I will not live in fear of my actions, but bask in the glory of my knowledge from the lessons I've learned from said actions.
Honestly I tickle myself...I sound as if this had been my life goal. The anthem I live by, but really I've just came to the realization. Theres no need to be afraid anymore. Who cares what the future will bring? All I can do is take it day by day and work through it.
For fucking 18 years...shit who am I kidding, for TWENTY FUCKING YEARS(my whole life) I've been stuck in this stupid mutt. Being depressed, feeling as if nothing is ever going to go right.
Well I get it now, nothing is supposed to go right. And even though I envy those who's life is perfect(assholes.) I know its really not, it may be better than mine sure, but really...I'd rather have my life than your's any day. Because I know how to deal with it, and I continue too. But I refuse to be down on myself anymore. Who cares if I have no money?(bill collectors X|) I'll find a way. Just got my heart broken? ITS SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN. Its not the end of the world. Someone dies? Celebrate their life don't dwell on their death. and so many other things that would take a life time to type.
Maybe I'll do it one day.
Write down everything I've ever learned about life.
Maybe I should start?
Write down said lesson after its learned.(otherwise I wouldn't be able to recall the lesson unless the situation called for it lol)
Who knows, maybe pass it down to my children when the time comes.
Or maybe I won't...people need to learn their lessons on their on. And honestly I wish someone wouldn't have tried to TELL me wheat to do...just WARN me.
Don't make a demand, make a suggestion.
That's the only thing I wish to change about myself, and maybe I'll get it one day...but DAMN I need to learn how to listen.
I openly admit to not being right all the time.(Then again who is?) But shit, I'm so stubborn when it comes to taking advice.
Shit, I barely take my own!
My point is its time to learn and take the lessons others give me.
On another note...
Its happened again.
He's in jail...again.
Though this time its my fault, and I think this could possibly be one of the biggest lessons I've learn and either bring T and I closer or tare us apart.
So far its brought us closer.
Before I was his but we weren't together.
He didn't want a girlfriend.
Then he told me he was never in love with me...but now and honestly I don't know if its an act or not and if it will be like this when he gets out and honestly I'm prepared for things to not work when he does get out. I'm not setting myself up for disaster I'm just saying, I'm prepared...
Anyways, now he wants to get married.
He wants to have babies.
Hes wants to settle down.
He loves me.
And after all this time of the fighting, the bullshit, this bi polar mess we call us I'm excited. :]
It sounds so stupid but I'm ready for it.
I need this.
I need him.
I love him and I want nothing more to be with him, no matter how dysfunctional we are.
No matter how hurt, how mad...I'm still happy nonetheless.
I can't wait for the rest of my life to begin.
No matter what, no matter the tears, the smiles, the heartache, those stupid butterflies that make my stomach itch, I know in the end I'll be happy.
I honestly for once truly believe it.
I have no doubts,no regrets. The only one I ever want to have is the regret of not experiencing everything to the fullest.
I think that's pretty easy to handle. :]
Stay easy Internet people.
I'll be back when I'm feeling emotional and am ready to contradict this WHOLLLEEE post.
But its okay, at least I can admit it.
Like I've said, we're meant to fuck up.
And I'm ready to learn my next lesson, so lets get to making some mistakes. :]
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